Rapid ejaculation is defined when ejaculation occurs prior to, or early into coitus. It takes place too quickly (less than one minute) and occurs before, or soon after penetration into the vagina. Ejaculation occurring before vaginal penetration is less easily defined. Previously, rapid ejaculation was considered a mental problem including anxiety and habitual behaviors such as masturbating very rapidly. A man who ejaculates rapidly may find that this has been the case for him in every sexual experience with every partner he has ever had.

Or a man may find that sometimes he lasts longer than others. This variation may relate to the particular partner he’s with, the situation in which the sex is taking place, or the type of stimulation he’s receiving at that particular time. In some cases, men who experience rapid ejaculation view sex as a performance test. In other cases, some men with erection dysfunction develop rapid ejaculation because they become very concerned that they will lose their erection unless they act fast. Notwithstanding, below are some tips to help a man last longer:

Greater control over timing comes from being very aware of one’s body. This awareness permits you to adjust the speed, depth, and angle of intercourse or any stimulation to modulate their own arousal. Over the years, men have tried to delay orgasm by thinking about trying to remember sports scores. This approach puts him at greater distance from his sexual experience and therefore reduces his ability to last longer.

Anxiety reduction is crucial to a man’s having his orgasm when he wants to. Many things can contribute to sexual anxiety, but inadequate positive experiences is at the top of the list. Keep in mind that performing is not the point of having sex with someone, creating shared sexual pleasure should be the ultimate goal.

De-emphasize intercourse as the primary way of sharing. Intercourse is only one way to be sexual and not necessarily the most pleasurable way for a partner. On his own, a man should re-create the circumstances in which he ejaculates most rapidly, including his body position, the amount and direction of the pressure on his penis and the amount of lubrication. Also, it’s important that he move his body to re-create the sexual behavior during which he wants to last longer. Once aroused, he should slow down or stop entirely if necessary, and not have an orgasm. This process of approaching and holding back should be repeated one or two times during each practice session before reaching orgasm. That will create much greater awareness of exactly how aroused you are and let you know that greater awareness bring about voluntary control.

Finally, a skilled therapist can guide a man to a solution whether or not he has a helpful partner. However, when a cooperative partner is available, the potential for positive change is quite high and the relationship itself plays a very important part in fostering the changes that both people want. Including the female partner as much as possible in the treatment and counseling sessions is important to achieve the best outcome.

The female partner should slowly begin stimulation of the male and should stop as soon as he senses a feeling of excessive excitement that may lead to ejaculatory inevitability. Also, she should administer a firm compression of the penis just behind the glans, pressing mainly under the penis. This should be uncomfortable but not painful. Stimulation then should begin again after the male has a feeling that the ejaculation has decrease. The process should be repeated and practiced at least 10 or more times.

Coitus may be attempted, with the female partner in the superior position so that she may withdraw immediately and again apply a squeeze to remove his urge to climax. This technique can also help the female partner to be more aroused and can shorten her time to climax because it constitutes a form of extended foreplay in many cases.