Sex does get better for some women around menopause. They're more experienced and know what they like and are willing to ask for it. In fact, with al the children out of the house, they may have less stress and more time to focus their intimate relationships. As your hormone levels fluctuate, you may even experience a more testosterone that increases your sex drive. In other cases, some women may experience a decrease in sexual desire during the menopause transition. They find it difficult to be in the mood for any sexual activity. Also, others may have trouble achieving orgasm as often or they feel less sexual.

Menopausal symptoms—hot flashes, vaginal dryness, sleeplessness, moodiness, excessive bleeding may make you feel pretty unsexy. Other problems that may play a role include how you feel about getting older, your appearance and physical fitness, the availability and health of a partner, and medications you're taking. Women who continue to have frequent sex during the menopause transition have fewer sexual problems than those who cut back or stop.

In fact, the more sex you have, the more you encourage blood flow to the vaginal region, which helps keep the tissues healthy and strong. Vaginal lubrication is also more plentiful in women who often have intercourse.

Pelvic muscles that are used often are more likely to be strong and responsive. Additionally, having regular sex encourages you to keep thinking of yourself as a sexual being no matter what your age.

It's also important to realize that both men and women tend to feel less sexual desire as they get older. Over time, you may find that it takes you longer to get aroused or to reach orgasm. Foreplay may need to become more direct and focused. If you and your partner feel happy with yourselves and each other, good sex will follow at any age. Enjoy your age and sex life.