The Problem: This argument is about one person spending too much money without consulting the other. What it's really about: Perhaps this argument is not really just about spending too much money, but about priorities, and questions about the 'value' of what is being bought. Perhaps one person is having more fun with money than the other, and one is left with all the boring accounting and budgeting?
The solution: It is very important to resolve this issue, as it is very debilitating for a relationship. As soon as this situation occurs, sit down and share any feelings of concern with your partner without arguing. Listen to each other, and acept that you need to do budgets and organise exactly what kind of amounts are available to spend on fripperies and non-essential items, but realise that you both need to have room to spend money in your own way.
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